Many youth are constantly struggling and battling with the state of being single, finding the person that God has separated for them, and dealing with issues in their family life. This week our service was a little bit different, the Apostle of the house, Guillermo Maldonado and his wife Prophet Ana Maldonado took over the service and gave us an insight on many of the things that we have all been struggling with lately. I want you to read this and be ready to look at your life with a whole new meaning. There are questions that you have been asking yourself… we’ve got the answer to some of those questions.
What are the most commonly seen issues in our youth today?
Let’s start off by dealing with the root of the problem. These are the seven most common problems:
1. Lack of identity
2. Low self-esteem
3. Rejection
4. Suicide
5. Immorality
6. Lack of perseverance
7. Rebellion
These seven things are some of the most common issues seen in the youth of our nation today. The primary start to these issues is having lack of identity. If you know who you are and who Christ is in you, you will never look to anything or anyone else to seek comfort. When you don’t have your own personal identity, your self esteem will drop, causing you to feel rejection. Your rejection will cause you to feel like your life is meaningless, not knowing that who you are is great! Lack of perseverance will take you directly to failure, always finish what you started. God knew your end from your beginning, He already completely what He started. He created you and already knew who you would become. You were created perfect, in the likeness and image of God. Many times we don’t realize the root of where our troubles come from. At least five of these commonly seen issues in our youth today are caused by a living in a dysfunctional home. When a home is dysfunctional, one of these things will manifest itself in the life of a young person.
What are some wrong reasons to get married?
Learn this, when you get married for the reasons that follow, you will end up in failure:
1. False liberty: the ego within you tells you that you need liberty and you don’t get it from your parents so you find that freedom in marriage. This leads to independence but for the wrong reasons. When you are married, your freedom will be less… Liberty has a limit!
2. When your hormones are out of control, you will get married due to youthful passions: Control your hormones through the Holy Spirit in you, exercise, stay away from places and people who will increase your hormones… Allow the Holy Spirit to control your body and to live in you.
3. Problems with your parents: many of us try to escape our family problems by getting married and leaving our parents home. Marriage based on this reason will end in failure.
4. Loneliness: marriage will not satisfy your loneliness. Loneliness is not lack of company, it is lack of purpose! When you know your purpose in life, you will never feel lonely. Find your comfort in Jesus!
5. Financial problems
How do you know it’s the right time to get married?
Many don’t know this but in Heaven, dating is not aloud. When God says it is your time to meet that special person He has separated for you, He will show you through the Holy Spirit who the right person is. If you are dating around trying to find out who the right person is, that is not the culture of the kingdom of God. If you wait and pray to the Holy Spirit, He will lead you to the right person…how will you know when you are ready for marriage?
1. Maturity: age has nothing to do with maturity
2. Stability: Spiritually: if you don’t have consistency in your relationship with God, you are not stable in your spiritual life; the bible calls spiritual instability ”schizophrenia”. Emotionally: if you cannot control your own emotions, you are not ready for marriage. Financially: how are you going to maintain a household, your wife, kids, bills, etc.
What do you do when you think you have found the one?
99% of people today look at the opposite sex because of their physical attraction. Make sure that the first thing you look for in a man/woman is that they have a heart dedicated to Jesus. You will know that person is the one in two ways.
1. The Holy Spirit will confirm it to you2. Two people will confirm it to you: your parents and your pastor.
Many of us think we are ready for marriage at a young age when there are many priorities that need to be completed before we can sit down and begin to think about marriage. If you want to analyze your life and see if you are ready for marriage, think about these things: have you finished high school and graduated college? Do you have a job? Is there stability in your relationship with God, have served Him whole heartedly and do you truly know and understand the purpose that God has over your life? If you answered yes to all of these things then you will truly know you are ready! Check your heart and see if there is stability in your life. When there is no spiritual stability, you have nothing. Men, if you want to see a girl fall in love with you, fall in love with Jesus!
Virtuous women of God
As women, know that there are many points to be met before you get marriage. As the wife and mother of a household, you must be able to withstand all things, you must be ready and willing to stand up and fight for your husband, you must be ready to support your husband in everything. For the women, here are a few pointers to look into before getting married.
1. Be sure it’s Gods perfect will. Be sure that your husband is also walking in the perfect will of God for his life. Like it says in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked with the unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
2. Go into marriage knowing you will need to die to your own ego for your spouse. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13
3. Have an attitude to be the best wife possible independently no matter what his attitude may be. Be a Proverbs 31 woman. Like it says in verse 11, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”
4. Start preparing yourself to be a great mother: the tenderness of motherhood will lead to you to be a good mom.
5. Support in all things the vision. Stand up for him in all things, for you were made to be his helper. “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
6. Have a financial goal where you will sacrifice your goals to reach the goals set as a couple; in that financial purpose there will be your house, children, expenses, etc.
7. Make a determination to live a healthy lifestyle and look good for your husband; many woman stop taking care of themselves after marriage. Take into account your physical stature. Balance motherhood and marriage, eat healthy and take vitamins.
What qualities should you look for in a man/woman?
1. Seek someone who loves God with everything they have: a woman who is passionate for God is worth it. When she says “I love God more than I love you”, she is worth it!
2. Look at how that woman treats her father/how a man treats his mother; how a man treats his mother or how a woman treats her father will say a lot about how they will treat their partner.
3. Knowing that it is the right person, see that they will be a good parent. In Proverbs 31 it talks about a virtuous woman. It says that a woman of great beauty will bring deceit. If the fear of the Lord is in their life, you have found a trophy! The bible says a man is sanctified by his woman.
What can we do and not do with our boyfriend or girlfriend?
1. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you
2. Be obedient to the Holy Spirit & He will show you what you can do and what you cannot. When we are young our hormones are running, flee from the sin in your life.
3. Do not be alone with your boyfriend or girlfriend anywhere, always be where there are people around; this is a way to value yourself.
4. Set boundaries in your relationship; don’t do anything that will cause you to fall in temptation.
Do arguments mean that your relationship is not from God?
1. Not necessarily; arguments are just your egos fighting, you must both learn to die to your ego.
Overall, it is very important to know your purpose, your priorities and where you stand in the kingdom of God prior taking a step into marriage. We hope that this has in some way answered some of your questions. If you have anymore questions, feel free to leave us a comment.
